Thursday, January 12, 2006

School of Friendship

Don't you long for the days when everyone in your class was your friend? As a grownup at work, you simply have colleagues; or even a young adult in university, they're still colleagues and you don't know half of your classmates' names.

What struck me as funny about school was the fact that we actually believed that we'd stay "together forever." Making all these mini-campaigns and posters and writings poems and speeches and preparing for the big day and all that, putting in mind that you will still see these people that you shared an important part of your childhood with in the future.

Maybe it's what gave us kids hope. Or, maybe believing in such a thing so strongly was due to our naivety and inexperience of the outer world. I, myself, hated high school very much. The girls who studied with me were an absolute mess, and they would always find one reason or the other to pick a fight with me, and it would sometimes even get physical. Now all that I can tolerate, in every place there's the good and there's the bad. What I mostly hated, though, was the fact that our administration system would always justify other's acts and go against yours automatically. Actually, that's not fair to say that, cause they'd just justify the acts that would benefit them as an appearance and the such.
When I went to visit it recently with one of my good friends, we both felt our self-confidences taking a downward toll. Just the atmosphere about the place, the coldness and the lack of warmth in hospitality and treatment put us back as the girls who hated to wake up for school each day, only going because it's what they should do.

Perhaps I never did care for staying "together forever" despite my ex-classmates' vain efforts to have small reunions; I'd usually ignore the invitations, would only rarely go depending on the hostess. So graduating and leaving them was never such a big deal for me, it was more like a Godsend, I'd finally get rid of them and of that dreaded environment.

I never did care for high school, but I absolutely loved my elementary stage. Everyone would share their food, help friends in need, share crayons and stand up for each other. What I mostly loved was the strong sense of patriotism we held for our class and sections, for example, grade 3B was the best grade in the whole school, better than 3A and 3C and etc. and this was especially demonstrated during the activities the school held for its students, sports day being one of them. I do long for the days when everyone in my class was my friend; I long for the fifth grade so badly...


Breaking the Chains:

"The deepest definition of youth is life as yet untouched by tragedy."

Alfred North Whitehead

5 comments:

MD said...

reading ur words was like a trip down the memory lane. though i must admit that i LOVED school. i would just give anything to go back to those days. Grade 10 was the best year of my life...and well every day that i spent in that school.

but what made me feel bad was that a yr after i graduated (from school), i went back for a visit and everybody just treated u like outsiders and there was a note that said 'visitors are not allowed to go beyond this point' and that point was where the school started. the only place visitors were confined to, was administration. i never went back again.

though last month i had to go there to apply for my school leaving certificate for attestation of my university degree and the minute i stepped in, i just INHALED the smell. it was so....my school. the people had all changed. new registrars. new everyone.

and friendship. i dont believe in the concept of having ONE bestfriend or whatever. i have always been the type who gets along with everyone and i love everyone (well, almost) but i made my first and only so-called 'bestfriend' in high school and it just hurt me so much. people change, they change cliques...yet i could not digest that.

and when i came to university and saw how everyone is in their own world...and i compared it to my school yrs...it was so different. in school, even if we didnt exactly know the gurls...we somehow knew them better than the ppl in my class in university.

gosh it's like a whole era. lol and i know what u mean by the patriotism hehehhe. 9G2 rocks and NOBODY ARGUES :P

Seraph said...

oh my God about the smell i soooo know what you mean! when i went there i was astounded to smell the exact same familiar smell that i was so used to.. it's just so SCHOOL!

about friendship yup i'm the same as you, u can have a handful of best friends.. they're the ppl ur most comfortable with and share almost everything with. maybe u'd tell one what u wouldn't tell the other and vice versa, but hey ppl r different they understand different things :p

ur so right about the university thing. at least in school u knew who to trust and who not to trust, it's a small environment and everyone in ur class is ur age and shares the same thoughts.. in uni u shud be too careful, u hv ppl who r a few yrs older or younger than u in ur class, different backgrounds and different stuff and etc.

lol@9G2
we used to be 5A.. go east, go west, 5A is the best! WOOHOO! :P

Dots.. said...

u two are pathetic.. i feel if both of you bet the only thing ýou'd be talking about is your "school days" ...

I had a lot of good memories at school.. and even that "smell" :p
the activities, the stuff we did, my high school days were the best.. probably because i got to know myself better but frankly.. if i would miss any educational period i have went through, then i'd miss my college days.. i really really miss them so very much..

and about friends staying together.. lol funny part.. i had 10 friends at school (almost the whole class except for 3 ) i know nothing about them now except for one.. and same goes for my college "collegues" .. yet i got to know my best friend from college and thats something am so happy for.. !

oh seraaph.. i went once to a school reunion ... i regretted it... SO MUCH !

Dots.. said...

u two are pathetic.. i feel if both of you bet the only thing ýou'd be talking about is your "school days" ...

I had a lot of good memories at school.. and even that "smell" :p
the activities, the stuff we did, my high school days were the best.. probably because i got to know myself better but frankly.. if i would miss any educational period i have went through, then i'd miss my college days.. i really really miss them so very much..

and about friends staying together.. lol funny part.. i had 10 friends at school (almost the whole class except for 3 ) i know nothing about them now except for one.. and same goes for my college "collegues" .. yet i got to know my best friend from college and thats something am so happy for.. !

oh seraaph.. i went once to a school reunion ... i regretted it... SO MUCH !

Seraph said...

hehehe i know what u mean about the 10 friends and forgetting about them all.. ;p it's only been a few months since i saw them all together and i know nothing about more than half of them.

inshallah u'll get to have to live a nicer experience than u did during ur college days soon enough.. getting to know ur best friend was one of the best things too i'm sure!

oh and about the school reunion MY GOD i know what you mean i really don't want to see those people again ever!! LOL. I wouldn't go if that happened :p

thanks for calling us pathetic btw, and welcome to our pathetic group :gig: